Anonymous asked: Hi, I need help. Latley I've been on that jealousy boat with my boyfriend, he even notices it too. I hate it. I try not to be jealous but holding stuff in and not telling him straight up kills me more instead but when i do say something we always end up arguining and maybe one day he'll get tired of the arguing and leave. What should I do?
Yea, he will get tired of the arguing and leave. Well, it depends on what your jealousy is about and the status of your relationship. If you’re trippin over little things like him hanging out with his good girl friends and going to parties with them or like hanging out with his girl coworkers, and making a huge deal over it. Like if you’re fuckin crazy, hittin him up every minute, threatening him, taking things to an extreme — no doubt he’ll get tired of it. And yes, it would be your fault because you didn’t know how to be understanding.
But if it’s something different like if he kept talking to the girl he knows makes you uncomfortable because he used to like her or whatever. Or if you kept telling him that it bothered you that he talked to a certain person because they used to have a thing, anything like that is really understandable.
If you’re just being crazy, I suggest you take a second look at yourself, and ask if what you’re bitching about is even worth fighting over. Sorry for being a little blunt but I don’t know how else you’d realize something unless someone gave it to you straight. Look, those other girls who are his friends are nothing but his friends. You have friends too, right? Wouldn’t you hate if he restricted you from hanging out with the people who have been there for you before him? Remember to always be considerate of the other person before you complicate something that shouldn’t be complicated. I feel that jealousy erupts from being not confident enough or unreassured.
Which brings me to my next point. If you’re jealous over a girl he used to like or something like that, I understand you. Don’t feel bad because it’s natural to feel a little uncomfortable over someone who he once had feelings for. It all depends on you and your boyfriends communication I guess. To be honest, you have to work this out with your boyfriend. You need to be straight with him and just let him know wsup, but don’t be a bitch about it. If he tells you what you don’t want to hear, don’t ignore him or begin to pretend like you’re not listening because that just defeats the whole purpose. Be straight, always. But remember that to get your point across, you need to be willing to hear his side too.
I really hope you the best. Cherish what you have now, always. And please don’t react from something in anger. If it’s not worth fighting over, don’t worry about it. You don’t want to lose the person you love over a stupid argument.
